Firstly, I must apologise for not writing a post in so long; the next paragraph will explain.
So it’s finally time to write another post. You know why? Because I’m angry. I’m angry at the narrow-minded people not just in other countries, but the people that I know personally. Now, I don’t want to disrespect anyone, but seriously I just don’t get how some people’s minds work.
I was actually planning on writing a post like this after reading a post by Angry Kpop Fan and finding that I had been through the exact same thing, being a kpop fan (you probably have too).
The problem is, once I’ve said I’m into K-pop, people (even your my own friends) assume things about me. Even things that I have never said and have never insinuated in the slightest. And to be very honest, it really pisses me off.
The most common, assumation made about me by my friends and my parents is that I don’t just love kpop, but I absolutely love Korean men. Da Heck! Seriously, let’s take a moment right here. How? How did you ever come to that conclusion. I just don’t understand. I mean, in my personal experience, my closest friends have all made the assumtion that I only like Korean men. One thinks that the only reason why I want to go to Korea is to meet a Korean man and settle down! (Ok. This actually makes me laugh). Other friends just assume that because I am a fan of Rain and think that he’s beautiful, it means that I want to marry him and have his babies! What?! Infact, my friends are so convinced that this is my one soul life desire that the subject of me marrying Rain cannot stay out of atleast one conversation that I have with them everyday! And frankly, it’s quite annoying; because FYI, despite me being a Rain fan that doesn’t even call herself a Cloud, I do not want to marry the man and have his babies. OK?
Infact, I want Rain to marry a nice beautiful woman of his dreams now, and have a daughter (because I know he wants one). He’s 30-years-old, so it’s about time (hopefully he’ll meet someone as soon as he gets out of the military). I would not be jealous when he does. I’m always reminding my friends that he’s 12 years older than me and such a huge star that I can never get that close to him to be able to marry him but they still go on.
The reason, that I finally came to write this point today, is that I started to became utterly angry at the assumptions that are made not just about me but about every other kpop fan. The thing that really got me going today, was when I was watching some Olympic swimmers on the television with my parents, and then one of the commentators started talking about this Japanese swimmer that was apparently the next big thing in that area of the sport and was really famous in Japan. The commentator then mentioned that the Japanese swimmer (I can’t remember his name) has thousands of followers on twitter, proving his popularity. My mom then turned to me and said in the most patronising tone, “Are you following him as well?”
Me: Why would I do that?
Mom: Because he’s…
Me: *Seeing what she was getting at* Because he’s what?!
Mom: Because he’s Oriental.
Just straight out blunt like that, she just inferred that I would follow anyone on twitter just because they are Oriental, like I have some kind of socio-pathical fetish for Oriental people. And just like my friends, she had absolutely no evidence to think that of me, but she went ahead and thought it anyway. My own mother! WTH!
In that situation, I refrained from saying anymore, out of respect. On the inside I was FUMING, but I kept my mouth shut not wanting to create an argument. But if I had created an argument, I probably would have put my point across that I’m not the socio-path my mother thinks I am. If reality would go the way I would want it to, then I would charge into the room that my parents are in, and yell: I DO NOT HAVE AN OBSESSION WITH ORIENTAL PEOPLE!
I mean, what gets to me, is that I really do not know why they think this about me, because I have done nothing to make them think that way either. The things that I have told them (because that’s all there is to tell them is that:
1: I listen to K-pop (I did not say Korean music*)
2: I watch Korean dramas
3: I have had Korean food (that’s just two meals, TWO MEALS, so it’s not like a regular thing)
4: I run a fanbase (didn’t tell them who it’s for, I don’t want them to find it) and a kpop blog.
That’s all there really is, plus I’m in to Korean culture. I mean, in all of my room I only have two kpop posters on my wall (EXO-M and EXO-K) and I only have a few physical kpop albums aswell. They don’t even think I’m obsessed with Kpop, my Mom thinks I’m obsessed with everything Asian (which is far from the truth) and my Dad thinks I like all things Korean.
Whilst we were watching the Olympic swimmers on TV, my Dad started to question me about if I’m interested in Korean sports people and I was: HELL NO. He knows I’m not interested in sport, so why would my head turn just because the sports people are representing Korea? My Dad even said I should probably do research on which South Koreans that are participating in the Olympics are likely to win gold medal this year! I was like: Why would I do that?
*It’s like, I said I like Kpop last year and then, my Dad sent me this video on YouTube of this random Korean man performing an American jazz song on a Korean music show. -_- I don’t know what you’re trying to do, Father; but if there is a song that a Korean man is singing, I will not just like it because a Korean man is singing it. OK?
So just to set some things straight:
I am not only attracted to Korean men. Yes, after being immersed into the world of kpop, I am much more open-minded to the different people of the world and I am more attracted to Korean men because of this (maybe, I dunno why) but that’s just it. I like men of many different racial backgrounds to point where race does not bother me, so I would prefer it if you do not assume I love Korean men only, because that’s not true.
- I am not obsessed with Korean people. I’m not a socia-path with a strange fetish for all people of Korean descent. The other day, I played at a music event, where some Korean people were selling pot noodles. I did not get suddenly happy when I found they were Korean, infact, I was debating over whether or not I should practice my Korean skills on them or not lol. Don’t get me wrong, I love Korean people, all the Koreans that I have met were all so genuinly kind to me and didn’t seem to judge or anything, but you know, I don’t fangirl over every asian person that walks my way in the street.
- I do not love all things to do with Korea, or to do with Asia. I am not into Anime (I actually am not into Japanese culture at all), I do want to go to a few Asian countries that interest me (i.e. Indonesia (Hello to my Indonesian readers :D), Hong Kong, Singapore (maybe), but Korea is still the promise land. And don’t get me wrong, I do not like all these Korean either. There are a few laws that really piss me off about Korea; mostly to do with sexual exploitation, child protection, and animal welfare. Even within kpop, it has come to my attention that there are many dodgy Entertainment companies operating just to sexually exploit young hopefuls that just want to became famous singers. It’s plain out wrong, even in the way some of the bigger companies treat their artists with killer schedules (T-ara). I am very well aware that there is a dark side to everything even kpop. Even though there are things I don’t like about South Korea, there are much more things that I do like which makes that country the ultimate promise land, like I said 😀 …Oh! And another thing, I am not interested in what’s going on in sports even if it is Korea (I will support South Korea though because I want to do well, but sports generally isn’t something that interests me, except for some Tennis and Figure Skating ~that’s where Kim Yuna comes in.)
- I do not want to be Asian, or Korean. I love the language, kpop, culture, food, and I did not grow up with a culture like this, or am descented from a country with such an interested culture but I am happy with who I am, and I would NOT change to be anything different! 😀
So there you go, if you read, all the way to the end, then I am very grateful to you for being interested in what I have to say about this. Ultimately, I do not get too annoyed most of the time at such assumptions made about me when I mention I like kpop. I believe it’s your choice to be offended at what someone says to you, and I choose not to be offended at such narrow-mindedness, but there’s one thing I want to ask YOU!
As a kpop fan, or even if you’re an Anime fan, have you ever had people assume things about you, based off of that? Like, do people automatically think that you’re only interested in Korean men? Or Korean girls? Or that you’re obsessed with Asia or Korea, or Japan? Please tell you in the comments below, or just tell me what you thought of this post. Did I entertain you? I sure hope I did, I do try my best. 🙂
Anyway, thanks for reading, it means a lot!